Author: queenofstardust

chasertiff:

ruby-dear:

okay so i’m probably 7856454 years late to this realization but
…i guess the reason straight people don’t really think our identities matter that much to us is because theirs don’t to them?
like, i think about how not straight i am all the time
but they don’t do that, do they?
they don’t walk around thinking ‘i’m soooo straight’, right?
so they don’t think it’s a big deal to other people
maybe that’s it and maybe it’s not but i mean
it’s something to think about for me

This is actually something that is super important to discussions of diversity and identity.

The people on top don’t “see” their identity the way the marginalized do. Men talk about the fact that they identify as men, but it’s not a part of their identity in the way that “woman” is for a woman – trans identities similarly challenge the status quo, and so you have groups of people who look at society’s expectations and say “I am not that. What am I?”

But people who meet the requirements of society never have to stop and think, “is this me?”

And so people don’t “realize” they’re straight because they don’t have to stop and think about it. People don’t “realize” they’re white because they don’t have to stop and think about it. People don’t realize they’re cis or abled because they never have to question what it would be like to not be what they are.

Academics aside and personal opinion: I feel like this phenomenon is a huge reason for the push back against these discussions by the people on top. People are offended that they are called sexist and racist, sure, but I think what’s most unnerving to these people is that they suddenly have to call who they are into question. They have to be aware of their whiteness or their gender or their sexuality in a way they didn’t have to be before.

so, our sex ed program has been repealed, apparently. we’re using the old curriculum again.

the thing is, it’s from 1998. kind of really outdated – especially in regards to like, not being a straight or cis person. sexuality and gender identity isn’t included in this curriculum at all, as far as i can remember. i think they mentioned potentially being gay in passing in high school, somewhere in the ‘you’re too young to know what being asexual means!’ lesson. but overall it was kind of useless to me, because it was outdated and didn’t cover a lot of issues that people face these days. apparently they aren’t even teaching kids about consent for fear of them ‘partaking in sexual activity’ or something like that.

so, as someone who went through the old system and found it useless, and who was overjoyed at the 2016 revision: go fuck yourself, ford.

and to all the kids who are like me: i’m sorry you won’t get the lessons you need and deserve. i’m sorry you’re going to be taught outdated stuff like it’s fact. take everything with a grain of salt and do your own research (which is honestly good advice for anything). i hope you can still get those lessons somehow, even though the government and the education system has failed you.

ruby-dear:

i can’t just talk about one pet tho so here’s miss satan’s gremlin brother, asshole fluffbutt mcmeowface (also known as ‘buddy’)

he’s a butt but i love him anyway and also he’s the Friendly One out of all my pets. he’ll let you pet him until he gets bored and then he’ll try to eat your hand