1. She wanted an abortion. He didn’t. 2. She had baby and gave him what he wanted. 3. She was clear about her intentions the entire time. 4. She pays OVER the court ordered amount in child support. 5. He regrets the child and wishes she would just do what he wants. (Aka. Be with him and take care of the kid she never wanted in the first place).
… and SHE’S the deadbeat?? Lol. Ok.
this girl is a fucking saint. i would’ve stolen his wallet and gotten an abortion because i’m not going through pregnancy and child support for some abusive fuckboy.
WTF
And women get the stereotype of trying to “trap” men with pregnancy but I feel like dudes do this shit way more
He ain’t shit because he got the baby he wanted, just not how he wanted it. Good for her
This proves my idea that most men don’t even want kids, they just want a trophy to show off or prove they a “real man” cause they created a baby like “real men” supposed to. They want women to have the kid and take care of it, so all they have to do is show the baby off.
And women go through the same shit. They get pregnant and have kids, but then the father leaves cause they didn’t want kids. But when they go to get custody/child support they “gold diggers” and get hate for trying to tie a man down before he ready.
I love this, because if you click the link, almost every commentor on this post is ripping into this guy for calling her a deadbeat mom
“Conversion therapy” is child abuse. There is no gray area. There is no wiggle room. The fuckers who practice it are abusers. The fuckers who send their children off to be “converted” are abusers. Assholes who say “I wouldn’t do it, but that’s their right as parents” are abuse apologists.
It’s literally torture? The entire intention of the process is to torture the kid until they develop a mental disorder that causes them to be repulsed by anything they are attracted to. There is nothing else to it.
You don’t have to be grateful that it isn’t worse.
read that.
read it again, and again, and again.
somebody, somewhere, always has it worse than you. there is one person on this planet that has it the worst of all, and that person is NOT the only person allowed to be unhappy with their lot.
if things are bad for you, they are bad for you. period.
This goes for trauma as well. A lot of times survivors get trapped in a cycle of minimizing/diminishing their trauma because “other people have it worse” – but there is no hierarchy of trauma. There is no ranking system for which traumas are “better” or “worse.” Your trauma is valid. Period.
IMPORTANT TRUTHS.
As a therapist, lemme just say: almost every trauma survivor I’ve ever had has at some point said “But I didn’t have it as bad as some people” and then talked about how other types of trauma are worse. Even my most-traumatized, most-abused, most psychologically-injured clients say this.
The ones who were cheated on, abandoned, and neglected say this. The ones who were in dangerous accidents/disasters say this. The ones who were horrifyingly sexually abused say this. The ones who were brutally beaten say this. The ones who were psychologically tortured for decades say this. What does that tell you? That one of the typicalside-effects of trauma is to make you believe that you are unworthy of care.
Don’t buy into it, because it’s nonsense. It doesn’t matter if someone else had it “worse.” Every person who experiences a trauma deserves to get the attention and care they need to heal from it.
wheres all the support for the emotional abuse victims
no, seriously. victims of emotional abuse have it hard because they do not have the physical marks or the records to “prove” to someone they were hurt and are hurting. most people will not take emotional abuse as seriously as physical abuse, saying “you should get over it” or “sticks and stones”. thats fucking bullshit.
emotional abuse victims who have been forced to do or say or be things you never wanted to, i love you.
emotional abuse victims who have been gaslighted and manipulated to the point where you no longer know what is real, i care for you.
emotional abuse victims who are told they will never be loved by anyone else and they are not a good person, you are amazing.
emotional abuse victims who feel manipulative and often catch themselves mirroring actions of their abusers and feel sick to their stomachs because theyre “turning into them”, you are not them and never will be. you are so much better than that.
emotional abuse victims who have to live every day suffering because nobody understands how messed up you are from what they said or did or made you do, you arent alone.
anyone who reads this, i care for you. please support all victims of abuse every single day because they deserve it just like they deserve the love and care those in the past have failed to provide them
I needed this today.
i rly needed to hear this ty so much sometimes i feel like what i experience isnt real or isn’t actually abuse
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